How to survive the first date after a divorce

24.02.2022 0 92

You are divorced, but now is the time to move on with your life. In order to start dating potential partners again, you first need to maintain a positive attitude.

Leave your anger at home

Many divorced women are angry about the situation they find themselves in, disappointed because they have 'no one or offended by the lives of their ex-husbands. You must forget that. Don't go on a first 'date' with hidden anger brewing inside you. That's not fair to you or him. Relax and plan to do something fun together. Enjoy your newfound freedom!

Don't stress about your first date

Nervousness can make you speechless, and you might be the type of person who normally rambles on about office anecdotes and family jokes. Before you go out, consider what you already know about the person. On the date, concentrate on what else you would like to know about him. Remember, everyone is nervous on a first date - men and women. Remember that you found each other because you both want the same thing - to meet someone you like, have fun, and the date may turn into something more.

Don't jump to conclusions

Don't let someone pass you by just because you don't like the way they're dressed or you think they don't have the right education. Try to adapt. Give the new man a chance. You will realize in time if it is not the right one, and he will too. But don't immediately remove him from you without giving him a chance.

Tell him you have children

If you are a mother, you should tell him this on the first date, if not before. If you are thinking about having more children, it would be good to spend some time with your partner before touching on the subject.

Don't give too much information

You would prefer to blurt out how your ex is late with alimony, denounce terrible laws, and the like, but save that exhaust valve for hanging out with your friends. Don't forget that he also has a history and you don't have to find out all the details about his divorce on the first date. Stick to the present. Of course, you should tell him about the divorce and the children, but you don't have to share stories about your parents' aging problems or rebellious teenage children. It doesn't have to be everything on the first night. You will have plenty of time.